Every relationship that we are in changes with time. Change is vital to its growth. Its not just relationships, its life's rule to move on.
Mothers become friends to daughters, daughters become advisors to parents. Fathers take a step back and just observe. Sisters know when not to intrude where they always intruded without permission. As we grow up, relationships grow with us. They transform to suit our age, wisdom, requirements. If we try to hold on to some old string, its bound to get knots.
Friends who adapted to new me are still with me. Friends who were still trying to fit me into that old mold were left behind. We change according to our situations, husband, life, country what not. So simply passing judgement on people's choices or saying they have changed for bad is not the sign of a developing adult mind.
Any person we don't see on a daily basis is constantly evolving into a different avatar we don't even have a hint of. My sister changes every month, she starts doing new things establishes new rules for herself. If I hold on to that memory of my younger sister, why didn't she just stay like that, it would harm our relationship in million unimaginable ways. She might just want same from me then too. Its a two way street, you give and take. My mother and me discuss bk shivani videos all the time, we make sure no one strays from path. If I go negative side, she catches me. If she goes, I get her back. Keep communication line open so you can discuss freely what bothers you.
All we have to understand is we all have varied situations with a zillion different shaping factors that affect our lives. Even a husband wife grow in different directions.
The biggest gift you can give someone is accepting they are changing and acknowledging it with full respect. Try to know them more, instead of telling what you need from them, ask them what are they upto, where is life taking them, support them in their journey. If you don't agree, you can probably advice once but then if you poke more, they will never get back to you.
At the same time, don't judge those who don't change. Judging creates more pain in relation. Try to set up lines of communication and include them in your life.
Life is taking them to their destinations. Its not relevant if we have the same destinations or not, lets just enjoy being a minute part of each others' journeys.
See good in people, be happy for them. Love them without restrictions and expectations. Move on.
Mothers become friends to daughters, daughters become advisors to parents. Fathers take a step back and just observe. Sisters know when not to intrude where they always intruded without permission. As we grow up, relationships grow with us. They transform to suit our age, wisdom, requirements. If we try to hold on to some old string, its bound to get knots.
Friends who adapted to new me are still with me. Friends who were still trying to fit me into that old mold were left behind. We change according to our situations, husband, life, country what not. So simply passing judgement on people's choices or saying they have changed for bad is not the sign of a developing adult mind.
Any person we don't see on a daily basis is constantly evolving into a different avatar we don't even have a hint of. My sister changes every month, she starts doing new things establishes new rules for herself. If I hold on to that memory of my younger sister, why didn't she just stay like that, it would harm our relationship in million unimaginable ways. She might just want same from me then too. Its a two way street, you give and take. My mother and me discuss bk shivani videos all the time, we make sure no one strays from path. If I go negative side, she catches me. If she goes, I get her back. Keep communication line open so you can discuss freely what bothers you.
All we have to understand is we all have varied situations with a zillion different shaping factors that affect our lives. Even a husband wife grow in different directions.
The biggest gift you can give someone is accepting they are changing and acknowledging it with full respect. Try to know them more, instead of telling what you need from them, ask them what are they upto, where is life taking them, support them in their journey. If you don't agree, you can probably advice once but then if you poke more, they will never get back to you.
At the same time, don't judge those who don't change. Judging creates more pain in relation. Try to set up lines of communication and include them in your life.
Life is taking them to their destinations. Its not relevant if we have the same destinations or not, lets just enjoy being a minute part of each others' journeys.
See good in people, be happy for them. Love them without restrictions and expectations. Move on.
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