I should be the last person writing this. I don't have kids but then it takes a third party to know what someone could be missing. Its just a minute thing and parents want it the most.
If you have a kid or kids, they are truly miracles not because you gave birth to them or because you went through a nine month pregnancy or a 24 hour labor, its because this new soul chose to be there with you so they could evolve better.
Honestly people start with the best of intentions but somehow between losing sleep, fattening body, preparing meals, it becomes a chore like others. Getting through day is a hassle for moms, let alone thinking about kids' happiness. To them, kids are always happily demanding. Its moms who need therapy and time to wash hair, do yoga. Its not wrong to complain, they occupy a whole new zone of life you never knew you could just give away for a total stranger.
Lets look at this from a child's perspective. This soul could have been a 80 year old, that soul is now a part of your life. Would you like it if someone bossed you around whole day or talked to you loudly in front of their friends? Yes, they are in this body that needs constant nourishment and help from others. Have you noticed as soon as kids can eat, they want to eat themselves, walk themselves, run around freely, play, explore, basically do everything that scares you? Imagine someone cribbing all day about handling you. How frustrated would that make you? That is the emotional state of a child.
What is the solution? Yes you are tired, so rest take break hire a babysitter, rejuvenate yourself. Ask friend for help. Its more helpful for kid. You will get your life back after a few years, they will start going school but your anger complaint and frustration will mold them into something that they will change again as a 30 year old. That is a painful process, some of the adults will never even realize what went wrong. Why go through unlearning stuff if you never learn anything?
When we garden, we sow seed, wait for it to rise, there is no twisting or turning stems. All we have to do is nourish it, give water sun, give it a strong root fertile soil. Flowers come naturally.
As a parent, be happy be joyful enjoy this process every moment. Don't teach them anything, they will pick up skills on their own. This is the time to witness how a life grows. Kids are the greatest teachers, they don't hold grudges, they don't know any emotion but love or anger. Take them towards love. If possible, add spirituality. Be an example but don't force them to be like you. We are not from their generation, there is not much you can add to their life, your contribution is till 5 years. Give them a blissful childhood of freedom with fond memories that shape their life. When you are at ease, it will be a group of people co-living. When you are not, it will be a forced prison.
Accept you just gave them a body. Rest all belongs to them. Don't meddle with that structure. Simply respect them as a human life.
There are so many sadhguru videos on parenting. Watch them. Immense responsibility lies with you. It would be a utter wastage if they turn out just like you.
You have a new thriving life. Live upto it.
Thanks,
NAMASTE
If you have a kid or kids, they are truly miracles not because you gave birth to them or because you went through a nine month pregnancy or a 24 hour labor, its because this new soul chose to be there with you so they could evolve better.
Honestly people start with the best of intentions but somehow between losing sleep, fattening body, preparing meals, it becomes a chore like others. Getting through day is a hassle for moms, let alone thinking about kids' happiness. To them, kids are always happily demanding. Its moms who need therapy and time to wash hair, do yoga. Its not wrong to complain, they occupy a whole new zone of life you never knew you could just give away for a total stranger.
Lets look at this from a child's perspective. This soul could have been a 80 year old, that soul is now a part of your life. Would you like it if someone bossed you around whole day or talked to you loudly in front of their friends? Yes, they are in this body that needs constant nourishment and help from others. Have you noticed as soon as kids can eat, they want to eat themselves, walk themselves, run around freely, play, explore, basically do everything that scares you? Imagine someone cribbing all day about handling you. How frustrated would that make you? That is the emotional state of a child.
What is the solution? Yes you are tired, so rest take break hire a babysitter, rejuvenate yourself. Ask friend for help. Its more helpful for kid. You will get your life back after a few years, they will start going school but your anger complaint and frustration will mold them into something that they will change again as a 30 year old. That is a painful process, some of the adults will never even realize what went wrong. Why go through unlearning stuff if you never learn anything?
When we garden, we sow seed, wait for it to rise, there is no twisting or turning stems. All we have to do is nourish it, give water sun, give it a strong root fertile soil. Flowers come naturally.
As a parent, be happy be joyful enjoy this process every moment. Don't teach them anything, they will pick up skills on their own. This is the time to witness how a life grows. Kids are the greatest teachers, they don't hold grudges, they don't know any emotion but love or anger. Take them towards love. If possible, add spirituality. Be an example but don't force them to be like you. We are not from their generation, there is not much you can add to their life, your contribution is till 5 years. Give them a blissful childhood of freedom with fond memories that shape their life. When you are at ease, it will be a group of people co-living. When you are not, it will be a forced prison.
Accept you just gave them a body. Rest all belongs to them. Don't meddle with that structure. Simply respect them as a human life.
There are so many sadhguru videos on parenting. Watch them. Immense responsibility lies with you. It would be a utter wastage if they turn out just like you.
You have a new thriving life. Live upto it.
Thanks,
NAMASTE
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