Rape Causes According to Middle Aged women India

I had lunch with some new friends yesterday most of who are  nearing 50, and currently indians' favorite topic is "Delhi Bus Gang Rape" . Every other person wants to say how disgustingly sick barbaric some human beings could be. How low they could stoop to ?

 But then comes the statement I hate the most. I am going to quote as that so called modern woman said
 " Don't you think body hugging tight dresses are the main reason behind rapes and crimes against women? "

Then other one jumped in who was in tight hugging dress showing off her bust when she served and said even though i wear these kind of dresses i am always in car wearing jacket and scarf. I never travel in public buses or auto when I have to go to a party . Its common sense for girls. Others started applauding on how she simply blamed the one with a short dress in bus on being touched in wrong way.

Another housewife who was growing anxious said if the girls get in trouble on wearing short skimpy dresses, they called for it.

After listening to all of this, I was ashamed of the fact I decided to go for lunch with these so called broad minded socialites having super rich background and extremely successful parents with powerful positions. I couldn't believe the words coming out of their mouth.

Then they started provoking me to speak on something relevant to the topic. I asked them if there is an eveteaser and he is standing on the road, would he differentiate between a girl in saree and a girl in skirt. If there is a rapist, would he let go a girl in salwar suit because she is so traditional and pounce on all the short dressed girls only because they look inviting to him.

All she could say was ohh I am not talking about the guy who has perversions, I am discussing the precautions a girl should take for her safety. Still not satisfied, I decided to be silent and listen more of this rubbish she had on her mind.

Well same woman pointed out how you know that when you are in short tight dress, guys will look back at you. I said whats wrong with it if you wanna look desirable and pretty and confident and amazing. I work out every day, some day I would love to wear a dress that is long enough and still covers nothing. Still I would want my freedom to roam around, there is no intention of getting raped or noticed, i just want to look fab n gorgeous. Being the youngest in the group, they kind of cut me out of the whole talk session possibly seeing my ideas as absurd and too radical.

There were so many things that came to mind when I reached back home, I made an excuse of gym, left in the middle of their bizarre conversation about fat women and leggings driving two wheeler making it vulgar with thighs. One of them was telling how much of a good daughter in law she is and others quickly started telling tales of wisdom and respect for elders and dressing properly and mannerisms and cooking and then i phased out. So just left the place.

Anyways I enter the house and the whole points that i could have blurted out are in my mind. Sad but true, I wish I just remembered all of these there and proved my point to those orthodox oldies.

First of all, answer to  the women in dress who covered and travel-led in car if she had to go to a party, what does a middle class family girl does. Does she ask her father to book a cab or buy her a car. What about going to college everyday? Not everyone is rich enough to afford luxuries like that. Does that mean she has no right to party or go to prom or go out to discs or with friends anywhere?

Secondly, public transportation is for public. I know its bad because the buses are full, metro is crowded so what do you do, start dressing up what others would find perfectly non sexy. The person who touches everyday every other woman who makes mistake of travelling in train and unfortunately standing near him is the culprit. Not those women, how can you even ask them to mind what they wear. Do you think he will spare you if you are in a burqua.

Thirdly, there is no relation between rapes and what girls do or not do. I mean its so sad that even three year old girl gets raped. What did she do to deserve that? What could she have wore or shown or illustrated to give them the wrong ideas? I just don't get it.

Yes, I agree if your butt crack is showing, thats bad. Cover it. But if some fool or stupid guy starts following you, don't you think he has nothing better to do and he is kind of desperate. The women proudly said I show these fat women, butt cracks girls, hoarding wives to my husband and tell him look at that girl, u r lucky u got me and i am not like them. Wtf, yeah sure no wonder so many women never found justice because there were other women saying they deserved it, they called for it, they shouldn't have stepped out in night, they should mind their clothing. What can poor men do, they are straight animals giving to their sex urges. Aaah, i am so mad i can never look at their faces in the same way again. Its so infuriating insulting. Why are women so partial and madly in love with male counterparts that every bad thing that happens to a woman even if its domestic violence is her mistake.

People who piss me off at gym...grrr...grrrr

I joined gym around 3 months ago and frankly I don't see a difference in me, but I feel fit, psychologically and it boosts confidence. I am around 5 feet 7 inches at age 26, my waist is stuck at 29 ( no matter how much cardio abs i do the fat won't melt away) and so weight is always 53 kgs. This has got nothing to do with what I am going to write about, i thought it could help you in imagining I look slim but I have a not so toned body. Being a housewife most of my time is wasted on cooking  cleaning and then finally something fruitful called gym. I take it pretty seriously but thanks to these people I can't concentrate enough. 

Chatty Chips : Aaaah at first I liked how they were friends and worked out together, you know how they do in those weight loss shows, sweating losing fat in a group, but no all they do is talk talk talk, about their children about their maid and no levels increase, no fat melts, its all the same. Their irritating chit chats, gym is more of their meeting point and then they go for walks, those super long chatty walks. When someone questions them about stupid easy exercises, they say we have backpain, we have problem in bones of legs and hands. They even turn down the music so the conversations are audible to everyone in the gym. These women use gym to discuss dinner lunch life dogs periods, any thing but their blasting fat from tummies.  If you think chatty ladies are bad, try chatty unfit uncles. 


Copy Cats : This is another irritating frustrated breed that copies your moves. I don't mind in telling you what I do for what I do it, but have the courtesy of asking, don't just start following me like some monkey without knowing the proper way. I had this girl who would copy my warmout exercises then my strength workout routine and even tried to compete with me on treadmill. Oh come on, why can't people go to google, youtube or those slender workouts. Just don't make me conscious of being watched over all the time. I have even had guys following my routine which is sad. Its not like I never saw other exercises, I just chose not to make other person uncomfortable.

Machine Hoggers : Well everyone has seen them, we know what this species does, they get on a machine, tune some regional tv channel or sports and keep RUNNING at 5.1 kph, seriously sometimes they go to 6 and thats the best they can do. They are on the machine for more than an hour. Some of them have so much time they could literally write a book while on treadmill. You can't ask them to get down, its rude and who wants to talk to dumb person who thinks they will be losing with such a workout plan. Some fool instructor with sole intention of consoling them asked them to just treadmill or  do elliptical, he got off but we suffer to this day. All you can do is look out for opportunity window and grab it when they are busy on mobile or instructing their maids what to cook.

Your Casual Old Mom Like Acquaintance : Okay I admit one of the worst mistakes I ever made was talking to the oldies for a longer time, I would have been better off alone but I have a habit of getting all adorable and let them see me as their kid to the extent of advising and instructing me after which of course i vanish from their radar. But the harm is done. So I had casual conversations with this group of moms who got married at 20 and have 22 year old sons. Now unfortunately their gym timings coincide with mine being a housewife gym time and gym is closed from 12 to 4 pm. So long story short when i am on my workout trail catching my breath to holding weights, they are taking long breaks and keep commenting on how i don't need to workout or i should be eating more butter or the worst thing making fun of me while i am running on treadmill or in pilates yoga pose how i could just disappear if i do it more. Its so offensive once i let them enter that zone, i can't retreat so i am stuck stuck stuck. I once admitted how much I hated cooking and then they are like ohh husband or child has the right to decent meal , one should cook more and how you should do it. Blah blah blah they chat forever and my waist could go to 32 inches if time doesn't change for gym. 

Show offs : This is the category with more men and less women, primarily because there are not many women with fit body and more guys with illusion they have one. Well my husband has a no fat body with extreme abs, like serious abs, sadly no muscles , he is as lean as i am. So i know when you are fit, when you are not. Major show off guys come in groups, they talk more to instructor like they are some childhood buddies and once in a while do some weights, whats the worst part is they wear sleeveless t shirts and really short tight pants, bermudas. Well, they split up in every corner of the gym, having conversations in signals, winking laughing at each other, setting weights to ultimate high levels and doing nothing with it. 

They hate gym music : Yeah the whole idea of gym music is to help you with running, pump up the spirit speed. These idiots don't get it, they are all about their boring customized music, they want taylor swift or keith urban or even rajesh khanna on the ipod so for their own sake, they reduce the volume in gym which is so not happening. It disrupts the workout for others, yeah some would question get your own music but i like it when something is not in my ear and the volume is high to get me into the whole working out mood. Besides its gym, not your house where you can ask your pet kids to obey you.

Meddling instructors : We have a really good gym instructor, who never ever bothers anyone unless you ask him to and then he went on leave. So came this short black fellow, I think while explaining to him what he was to do, he was told you are going to be a teacher, treat them as students, get discipline in place. And so he started asking people to keep yoga mats in place or medicine balls in corner when in fact they were working on them. Yeah, then came another one who looked like a hunk from some slum and kept staring at women working out or showing off his body by wearing way too cheesy clothes. Its like a nightmare, the whole place starts stinking, this is the worst of all things that could happen in gym.

Bring along the kids : When some fitness channel was promoting couple workout plan, they never imagined they had kids and they couldn't afford the nanny so these delightful in love couples bring along kids who by the way stare at you or make funny noises and some of them can be pretty creepy spooky weird, i hate kids i don't find them cute at all except if they are cat babies or dog babies or any baby except human baby. So these lovely together mates sometimes even get the kid with diaper on treadmill or for cycling. They keep talking to kids, telling them stupid stories. I hate it , why can't you complain against kids families when they can complain against anything and its heard. 

Fat Ugly Teenagers : Okay I am not against teenagers coming in, what seems less tempting is teenagers who visit gym once in may be 3 months, they enter to just sit around, try different machines and then say ohh i am going to come here everyday, i could lose so much but you know what i am what i am...Aaah if someone saw raising the bar from south park, they will get it. Yeah you are fat, you need to workout, come regularly. Don't make this a  monthly hangout place to make plans for other parties. Just leave. 

Not dressed for the gym : I have seen people dressed in traditional indian clothes or guys dressed up in shirts shorts and chappals. Who am I to say anything but the dress code is inked on the entrance of the gym. This species is mostly here to take weight or just check out the place. So they are not that much of a hassle. 

My mother-in-law is officially my mother now :)

Well, as soon as you know you are getting married, you perceive a lot of characters, situations. You expect a lot of things to be like you heard from others. I did the same, and with all the negative traits and stories in mind, i entered his house. Its so psychological, you think they are gonna want to rule, they are going to make you work in kitchen, they will judge you, force you to sing dance etc, choke you with customs and rituals, show you off to relatives, get a lot of dowry from your parents. Well most of them do this too. Victims create victims. But with so many working families in scene, the whole character play is changed. Rules are different, in fact the only rule is to be nice and loving and respectful. Only if you are in right family.

With all these negative hopes, you will get nowhere or may be you better be prepped up. So don't be too rosy don't be too negative, just be normal. My mother-in-law is the best n most awesome person i have ever met. I didn't realize it in beginning but now after living with her for more than 15 days, i know she is way too forward than most of the moms i have seen. A few situations that changed my outlook on her are :

1) When the new bride enters, she is supposed to cook something for the relatives. The come to meet her, taste food cooked by her and then give her some money as the part of blessings. I am a horrible cook, i could never imagine cooking. But she never even asked me to cook, she just asked me to serve and dress properly. At that point, i hated serving too but now when i think of it, she was way too kind to me. 

2) Just recently, my husband decided to go to mall with his cousins who were all dressed in jeans, shirts which i would normally wear too. But when he asked if i wanted to go, i said no because i won't feel comfortable being the odd one with all married stuff and gaudy salwar suit. But my mil asked me the reason and told me to wear whatever i wanted and enjoy like other youngsters. What she said was if other people's kids are enjoying , my daughter should too. 

3) Some old lady came to my mil and asked  her to start teaching me to cook like her. What she promptly said was does your daughter work at home, do you nag her for sitting around or watching tv, do you expect her to work all day with you? Why would she work, let her be my daughter for next 5 years. Till then she will learn, besides she cooks every day for my son in chennai. Aah, sometimes luck just showers like hell.

4) Some other person started talking about kids and my mil abruptly stopped them and told them, whenever they are ready they will have, they have to be mentally ready for it, it doesn't matter if its 30 or 35 or 40. Let them be children for a longer time, we want to be the only parents for a considerable time. Its all on them. They are the deciding ones. Even my mom wouldn't say this.She says everything in the nicest way possible, still puts her point across. There is so much to learn.

I have seen so many relatives coming to her for advice, so many new brides looking forward to sit with her. Most of them even said they wanted her in place of their mil. But uh my luck ruled them out. 

TIps to make your in-laws happy

How to make your in laws happy? That depends on the type of in-laws you have. I have the understanding modern yet tied to roots type. They value traditions but have a different perspective at the whole daughter-in-law situation. They keep me like the daughter they never had. But still I know a few things that make in-laws in general happy. Here are some of them :

1) Touching feet and seeking blessings : Well its not like its gonna take a thousand bucks off your account. At first i thought why do we have to touch feet of every other person who enters the house but then i realized its a simple easy gesture that makes everyone happy. You don't ask why just think of it as an easy way to get to people's good list. I am not advocating that long feet touching where you have to massage and press at five  points thoroughly. If you have sweet people as relatives, a simple charan sparsh works.


2) Applying a thin line of sindoor : Aah its something sentimental to parents, it symbolizes your union to their child. Besides, a thin line when you are among relatives shows your respect for  his parents and your husband. You don't have to fill it like they do it in villages. Just a single line and everyone is happy. Besides you are not doing it everyday when you are at your own terms in your house far away from hometown. 

3) Wearing a few ornaments : I hated this part the most, wearing 6 toe rings , anklets, bangles, mangalsutra, rings etc etc. But there are always ways to handle them and still look elegant. My mum-in-law got me extremely thin toe rings, anklets. She got me a mangalsutra which looks way more pretty than any necklace. And told me she doesn't care so i don't wear them at home but if relatives come,i just wear them or else they will say stupid things. So I carry them, it hardly matters now. Also she got me a pretty bracelet which looks like a bangle. She also got me small bindis to put on forehead. 

4) Traditional wear :  The only idea of wearing saree made me angry to core. I don't know how to drape it, even youtube videos didn't help much. But this time when we went, as soon as we got out of train, we had to go to a party, i decided to wear saree and my mum-in-law helped me. It made them so happy, they like me in saree. Its like something people would expect you to frown at, make faces and when you love it, my mum-in-law is like a proud mommy. So just wear it on occasions like diwali or get together. If you have to wear it everyday, i guess thats a problem. Saree can be the most elegant dress and most vulgar wear at the same time. Drape it properly and get adored. Its not that uncomfortable as that stupid wicked mind says. Take kurtas with you and some pyjamas  and one dupatta when you visit in-laws. I know you work out but its not the place to show off your ass. Get some nice salwar suits, believe me you don't have to be gaudy to go traditional. Its all in attitude. 

5) Serve with smile : Most of the good families have maids for cooking, cleaning etc. So don't panic if you have to serve tea or snacks. Serve with a smile, make small talk and you can go back to your room. All you have to do it talk about regular things like job, work etc. People who make a fuss over minimal issues end up getting frustrated. 

6) Gifts are important : I considered this part the worst. I grew up seeing my mother getting all cranky over gifts, people staying eating for array of days, rakhi money, people getting their cabs paid for , taking relatives to nearby cities. But those times were different, we were all poor, we all had limited income. But now when most of us are financially secure, gifts are easy ways to someone's heart. If you are going on diwali, get cash ready for bhai duj or you may get some clothes for sisters. Buying gifts is a long procedure so whenever you go to mall and see a nice saree on sale, just buy it. It might come handy at times. Once in an year, get your mom-in-law a saree, your dad by law a kurta, your mil's mom a saree. The money is actually being invested here in happy relationships. Besides they gave you a lot when you entered house. Its just a small token of love. Enjoy it. Don't nag your husband. Get your parents gifts too. You will get it all back in some other form.

7) Treat them like your own : I have always called my in-laws mamma papa as i would call my parents. It came naturally and the very next day my mamma2 called my old mom how adorable i am. How much they miss me when i am gone? Its all in accepting and considering them and their feelings. Every mature content family wants a loving person to be a part of their family, not some super responsible freak. Be happy you got two sets of parents. Its called being lucky.

8) Small things matter : There are a few things that make me special for them. My mil loves songs and i keep switching channels to make sure she gets to listen them all day, we play radio and listen to songs all day. We see photo albums together and share stories of my husband's childhood. I talk to her about her struggle days when she was first married in the house. Also we share similarities of our husband's nature traits, their anger our mistakes etc. Its all same. When  i am sick, they take me to doctor and when we leave for our city, they cry. I made rangoli for diwali, it was not good but the thought that i had to make it made them happy. You just have to be good hearted. If you think stupid negative things, it just ruins the festival. 

9) Always keep the tone down : No matter what happens, never ever yell at anyone. Its insulting and sweeps out all the good things you did in past. Talk out everything, if it can't be solved, don't live with in laws. Do not create unhappy stressful situations. If you know your mil likes to fight, maintain distance and keep conversations limited to food, children. Your husband is the medium to complain or nag but don't overdo it to the extent where even he feels trapped. If its too bad and there is no way to resolve matters, just leave. Never ever be unhappy because some other person gets pleasure  from others  sadness. Don't fight over stupid things. Don't let anyone mistreat you. Don't over react to normal routine expectations. Its for a short span, enjoy it. Being polite takes you pretty far and above from mundane angry creatures. It makes you proud and happy.

10) Follow normal routine customs : Some of us could argue, why should i go to some temple, why should i keep saree pallu on head, why do i have to keep this fast? Well for a simple rule everyone does and other fact is its not that difficult. They are not expecting much if its for 5 minutes in temple. I know you could wear jeans like others do but a salwar suit won't make you look older if you are wearing the right one. Come on, with right fashion sense, anyone could look fabulous even in a simple kurta legging. I hated karvachauth, merely because it was so common, but i knew if i kept it, it will make them happy and kind of boosts your confidence, i did it and believe me it was not difficult. Its just over rated. Do it and get it over with rather than making excuses to every other married relative. But if you have to wear saree all time with in laws and heavy sarees in temples, its a bit over the top. I guess I got lucky.  Still, my friends seem to manage saree problem well as their in laws are pretty good natured. 

If they value you, love you and all they want from you is respect love and time, its the least they are expecting. Love them back, your husband will love you even more. I know mine does. 

What Foreigners shouldn't do in INDIA

I know there are a lot of guidelines people give on how to be in india, what to bring, what not to bring, how to behave blah blah. Till now, I have been to almost half india, and being an indian and audience to tourists, I kinda can sketch out how foreigners should be in here. This article applies to all cities, all villages, all hotels, all malls everywhere. 

1) Bargaining doesn't work everywhere : Yeah, before visiting india you are told, indians see tourists and they increase the rate, it goes to dollars but thats the case when you are in some street market where frankly most of the upper class population isn't found anymore. No indian with a upper middle class status visits these places and even if they do, they won't bargain. Still, if you are into street products, you can ask the vendor but please don't do it in the malls or shops where branded clothes are kept. I once saw a foreigner doing this and we thought, why would you ever do it in reebok shop. 

If you want to bargain, do it on street not in the mall or stores with well known brands. 

2) Stranger Danger : India is the kind of place where once you are taken or kidnapped or killed and noone ever comes to ask about, you will never be found. Your body would remain forever in the field or garden behind house. Tourists are super friendly and they are the targets most of the time. Don't invite people into your hotel room you just met at the beach or in a party, even if they are from your own country residing in india. Don't ever go after dark to stranded beaches or parking lots. 

For your own safety, keep pepper spray and stun gun and please don't trust someone you met in india. They could be the nicest people or rapists. Even an indian won't step out to the beach after dark. Even gay rapes are pretty common here in marked places. If you are lost, call for cab, don't take lifts from random people.

3) Don't carry a lot of money : Money attracts thieves and then they go for the kill to remove traces, they don't mind cutting throat for 300 bucks. They could notice you taking money back from some shopkeeper and follow you till a point where you could  be vulnerable or alone or drunk.

I am not saying india is not safe, just go by the rules, its a country with billions of people some of whom are majorly frustrated poor sick living like animals. And unfortunately most of the criminals know how to make a good conversation in english, they are kind of experts. You can keep money in hotel safe. Please choose a nice expensive hotel not some roadside motel,it could be dangerous.

4) Indian boys ain't cute : Keep teenagers safe and away from indian guys unless you know them well. I know its kind of bad to keep them under restrictions , just ask them to be in touch all the time. A friend's friend could be the bad guy. Don't trust in general, keep a distance from waiters or other employees, don't share any personal information with them. Mostly its the less earning people who have nothing to fear them and trust me they never got a girl, so a simple peck means love to them. 

Maintain safe distance for your own sake. A little rendezvous could be fun, it just isn't worth your life. You can get drunk but just be careful, you don't want to land in a trunk on station or outside city.  

5) Don't travel by train : First of all it takes time, secondly its not safe and hygienic even for indians, thirdly there are  a lot of crooks there looking for soft targets.

Still in case you do, don't accept food or drinks from other people no matter how much nice they are. Don't exchange your numbers or hotel details with them, chain your luggage properly, don't get down on small stations, lastly keep your important documents and money bag with you on your berth. And that mineral water bottle, you better buy it from some shop outside station or you could be drinking the water filled from toilet in rail. 

6) Temples : There are a lot of temples in india, first of all make sure the temple you are visiting allows foreigners or not, puri temple doesn't, some south indian temples take it seriously not to get the non vegetarians near idol. Don't do into these for any thrill, the could literally make a national news out of it.

Secondly, wear leggings, long t shirt or kurta and take a scarf with you. No part of your body should be revealed. For this small part, avoid skirts, shorts, skimpy clothes. Just be covered.

Thirdly, don't fall for those priest tricks where they try to give you something like a flower or thread in hand and start saying mantras. Thats just a way to take money. Don't pay attention to them unless every other person is taking from them.
Go to temple,leave your sandals in car, wash your feet hands, buy some coconut flowers if you want, go inside in line if there is, offer coconut to priest, he will give some part of it back to you. Thats it. Better if you take me along.:) Best option is to not visit crowded temples, its something even i won't do.

7) No drugs : Goa is known for weed availability in abundance. First of all, be careful with the drugs, don't carry them with you, if police catches you they could keep you for a long time asking questions about the whole gang of yours. Believe me, it could even take six months in jail to clear the issue.

If you are like too keen, take it in a safe place in some major sorority where its like top secret. Police frequents pubs time to time so that should be the last place. Otherwise if you are in safe reliable company who know what they are doing, you will be fine. Just don't get caught.

8) No mini skirts or pubs in south india : Recently there have been cases where some political parties went into the pub and started hitting girls in pub, all the poor girls did was drinking and partying. This happened in mangalore in kerala. Whenever you visit a pub, make sure its a posh club, frequented by high class people. Don't go into those cheap clubs or any clubs in small cities where the population is less and poor. 

If you are in delhi or mumbai you are free to wear anything, just make sure you don't walk on street and always have a trustworthy cab arrangement or your own car. There have been instances where cab drivers raped women or women were picked from streets in middle of the night and raped in driving car and then thrown out in morning. Its pretty scary. There were security guards who raped women in parking lot, so just be careful not to be alone in night.

9) Don't pick girls or guys for sex : Yeah I know most of the foreigners do it but its not safe, there have been known gangs who operate in a group, deal with some gay guy and then when they have been in his house two or three times, they killed him and took all the cash.

Once you have seen the face, they won't leave you alive. Even girls are used as traps in many cities. 

10) Don't do PDA : Yeah, india is a traditional conservative country from some stupid political police views. If cops catch you in action, you might have to pay a lot of money to get out. Normal fine is 200 bucks but heyy you are no indian. Don't wear bikini on every beach. Analyze then decide what to wear. Don't go into the water if noone else is going, there could be police waiting to nab you and fine more. 

And beware of transgenders, they dress like females in saree, once they catch you , they will ask for money and sing and could even go nude. Just walk away or give them 20 bucks. 

Go Gangnam Style Inspired Bollywood Gym Playlist

This gangnam style is pretty awesome, kpop is so spunky funky happy. It got me all charged up, I stumbled upon the song on teens react to episode. Listen to it, dance to it, add it to your gym playlist.

People keep looking for songs with 110bpm for gym in western music, if you google bollywood music, it has like 120 bpm in most of the songs. Like listen to these songs, consider them samples. For now, gangnam style and die antwoord alongwith skillet are in my september playlist. 

                                     

         
I will look out for more songs on some music channel. Everytime i switch channel, there's Barfi and Ranbir kapoor calling out to me to  make an exception and see hindi movie for a change.                            

How to survive different species of venus aliens ;)

Okay I was about to write some of those horrible experiences in this article on the whole non-compatibility issue. But what bothers me the most is so many women won't even admit they fight. Come on, they are like ohh he is so sweet, ohh i am so perfect we never argue at all. Yeah if you are a zombie and you are into meat  you surely will never have issues biatch. I am so angry at myself for going over to my neighbors and talking to them. They are like this typical countryside people, my husband did warn me and now as i write this, I know they are evaluating judging me, may be even laughing at how I mortified myself. AAhhhh, why did i go over, why did i sit there for so much time, why did i make jokes on how i don't cook, how lazy i am, conversations should be like people you are talking to, not like you would want them to. Its humiliating on some level. They didn't say a bad word to me. For first meeting, i did act like a self loathing dork. Or may be I didn't. I am just overthinking now. But I needed someone to vent out all my jokes. Yes i was that desperate. 

But at the same time I realized how profoundly my husband can judge a person's character by looking at the guy. He told me they are orthodox, they are. He told me they wouldn't like me, I am sure they don't. He also said they are different and live different lives, aahh he is so bang on right. They are not bad, just different. I should listen more to him. He is actually good at this whole personality stuff. 

Now that I am sitting, contemplating what all i said, what all i just blurted out its getting even more to the nerves. Got to keep filling page to get it out of system. Hmmm okay now i am pacified after having this oats tasting like strawberry. You have to filter what you say. With the lack of social contact, it just gets worse and worse everyday. When you don't have a job, you got to have friends who have or a nice friend circle. May be i should get a job.

Why can't people joke about normal things like ohh yeah my husband says this to me, ohh he is so mean ,you know the real stuff. Why do they have to take everything literally? I am kidding about how my husband cooks, and the old lady says ask him if he even wants to ? Come on, with a mother in law on side you don't even know if the daughter-in-law is faking or she is that villager. I am getting mean now. I have to have a friend. Its kind of sad and depressing how i can't find one. 

All my life, I have made fun of these small town people who come from small cities with all the fasts for gods,  knowing all the pickle recipes but i guess karma is a fucking bitch. Its come on to me by giving me just one option of either talking or living alone. 

Hmm anyways I have to talk again to rebuild my smart image. Its time to show them what they can't do. Noooooo...they are good, I will find more friends at the gym. I might need them someday. You can't have bad relations with a family living next door. I will just leave them with their world and seek out mine. They are perfect in the world they live, i am still looking for grounds. In a way, they are better for themselves. Still keep looking. 

But at the end, I just get what my husband is always warning me about. He is scared for me to get out because he doesn't trust me enough also because he knows its difficult to find second love with proper training included. I can never be a good home maker, all I can do is be good at public relations and get a job. JOB is the answer to every question now. Still you gotta be independent , you gotta be free and confident even without job. Its a personality trait not resume trait. 

So now you are like what species what venus, this was the countryside venus. I will write more about gym venus tomorrow. 

Chennai isn't that bad I guess

I have been so pessimist about the whole chennai episode that i forgot to explore within city. Chennai is not like a metro city, posh shops are in different directions. You have to run around to catch up with different events. But if you live in right locality among friends, it isn't that bad. First of all, there are a lot of shops, small supermarkets, big malls, kirana shops, more, heritage, nilgiris etc etc. If you want it all, go to nilgiris store in a prominent location where they have huge space.

We never noticed with our north indian gogs what chennai specialises in. Here are some of the highlights of chennai :

1) You will never ever be hungry in chennai : Seriously there are shops in every nook and corner of chennai, I can't guarantee oil they use but still there are options from hot chips to sangeetha, i have seen audi bmws parked outside adyar anand bhavan, hot chips. Their outlets at velachery are really big and spacious. I am not saying they are serving good north indian food, they are good at south indian dishes, have them. If you are in chennai and you can't eat dosa, you will starve or chew on rubber naan.

2) Malls are less but once you are in, every brand is in house : Malls are few here, really few. Just express avenue and Inox citi centre. But they have most of the brands, again obviously you will find better clothes in mumbai, delhi.

3) Beaches : One of the reasons why there are so many foreigners in chennai is beach and the whole coast line with mahabalipuram, pondicherry etc. Its nice to sit on beach, look out at the waves, i could literally sit staring at the waves and the families, lovers, dogs. Worst thing is dog poop, horse poop, camel poop, human poop and all clutter from the shops on beach. There are hill stations nearby like yercaud, ooty, kodaikanal too.

4) Chennai Trade Center : There are so many exhibitions in this place. Furniture expo, auto expo, home center expo, property fair, career fair. Its actually good to be near it.

5) Zoo zoo zoo:  If you have kids or your heart sometimes is like a kid, you have got to go the zoo. There are so many, one in guindy one is crocodile park another one is dolphin city then there is anna zoological park. I love seeing animals so for me this is another added option. To some people, this could be bizarre. Also they have circus shows in local theatres.

6) Sowcarpet : Sowcarpet is the mini north india, there you have all the famous eatery shops. Its a feast to north indians. Go there and you will forget you are in chennai. Love the marwaris and their business spirit. Only problem is its too far from where i live.

I can't think of more. I do hate traffic here and all the u turns but still every city has some flaws, you have got to overlook to be happy with your life. In my husband's sad words, i can't change my wife how can i expect the world to change for me, so from now on to be happy and content, i will make peace within my mind and heart to have a cheerful life ahead, it doesn't matter if i keep blaming others unless i decide to accept the flaws and move on. He is still coping and gets angry sometimes but it will lessen over time. 

Shifting house is a nightmare :(

First of all, What services we chose finally, what do we have right now is what i am just going to sum up before i write things to keep in mind before shifting.

First of all we booked indian packers and movers for shifting, they are pretty local in chennai so the charges were minimal. But never ever have them if you have the most delicate items in the world. They handle things like crazy, makes your heart sink a little. On the upside, very very fast packing, they pack, they unpack and you are in your new home in a few hours.

Then we bought bean bags from cozy bean bags, velacheri. They delivered within 2 days, the guy who handles all the work is awesome, they had some offer with one you get another one for all most half price. We got 2 jumbo bean bags, the biggest ones and two other kids bean bags for foot rest. All of it came around to 7,200 rs. They are good to play games, watch tv. Take care that he fills beans equally in all the bean bags. 

Now moving on to the points to keep in mind before you shift :

1) TV, Internet provisions : I called the airtel guys and they came too to fix dish too. But as it turned out, they had a single dish for all in building so you have to get it configured by some engineer from airtel. If only our landlord told us or my husband enquired, i wouldn't be sulking without tv for 4 days and still more as they go by now. Without tv, this void is just irritating. With the stupid internet dongle, youtube videos play like a picture slideshow. All my husband had to do was just ask the office, so next time you shift make sure you get all the details on this.

2) Make sure you have stool or something to climb on so that air conditioner guys or home theatre folk can install, we didn't have any and fortunately our neighbors had one. But there are a lot of things to fix usually and its important that you have one.

3) See which network provider has the strongest hold their. Our flat has no vodafone network, most of the people tried to call and went back. Whatever network works best, buy the sim.

4) Come along with groceries, as soon as you shift you might feel hungry enough to munch on chips, milk, juice,curd,cornflakes. Just stock up the ready to eat things for at least next 5 days.

5) In India, house maid is a must. The apartments are big, there's more dust and webs. So better enquire before moving. Maid that you keep for a day will charge 300 bucks just for simple brooming cleaning. Maid interview process, the whole language problems have to be addressed. One of the maids kept saying 3000 rs for a month and we thought in tamil it meant 300. The best way to do this is to leave your husband aside and make at least four five visits before moving in.

6) Bring in the equipments : Its my ritual to buy everything that I clean with  brand new. Go to bigbazaar or any other store and buy these for sure
1) bathroom broom
2)normal broom or vaccum cleaner
3) kitchen clothes a lot of them
4) mop
5) whatever cleaning agents you need- colin, harpic, bang, washing powder, bleach,  etc etc
6) washbasin brush
7) toilet brush
8) bucket
9) 2 mugs
10) vim, soap dispenser
11) liquid soap packets
12) loofah for u
13) shower curtains

7) Curtains for the house, extra bedsheets for keeping dirty things : Make sure you buy enough curtains and also check curtain rods, first time we visited the house, we completely forgot to check the mechanism so now our curtains hang with the help of clips. Its ugly.

8) Rugs, carpets : Again, I kept on saying get the carpet but my sweet guy won't listen. He was like ohh we can always get it, but now that we are 30 kms away from mall, its kind of impossible to pay a visit. With carpets, make sure you have a vaccum cleaner.

9) Another important thing is pillows for the living room, we bought these huge pillows and they are a blessing. Get pillow covers too, 4 if you need 2. It is not important, just adds to the comfort till your bean bags or sofas arrive.

10)  Make sure you have alternate arrangements with the mattress people. Like if they are not able to deliver it on time, they can get you a temporary one. We booked with not just brown and these people are amazing. They got us the mattress which is super comfortable. Stand by mattress is a must. Of course if you already have one, you don't need it.

11) Its okk if the bed gets late. I wish I could cancel the bed booking and get my money back. It is so comfortable sleeping at a lesser height with no wood . Its better if you don't buy one. If you buy one, get teak wood bed with some furniture shop who can amend according to your requirements, they can change the height of head board for you, they can change the bed sides. 

12) Also get these three things without thinking- shoe rack, tv stand, foldable storage stool to keep remote or other spare things. Its space saving.

13) When you visit your house first time, take all these notes:
    a) curtain measurements
    b) rug space measurement
    c) No of bath mats you will need, you will need one for balcony  and kitchen too.
    d) see how much space is there for cartons used for packing tv, refrigerator
    e) bed room measurement
    f)  washing machine attachment
    g)  air conditioner fitting where and if you will need handle or angle etc things, get confirmations from neighbors too how they fitted the whole equipment. if there is an existing air conditioner, get it serviced.
   h)  see if you will need extra wooden cabinets in kitchen or for dressing table.
   i)  check space for drying clothes
   j) And the most important thing, get your flat cleaned before you enter. 


14)  Also, check out the nearby locality for stores, restaurants, newspaper vendor, milk etc etc. 

More Furniture Shops Visited: Quest to Perfect Living Room

New day, New shops, new fights arguments, this furniture hunt is getting to nerves and we are exhausted of running to the stores situated at far off locations in the city. I still don't know how my husband is surviving this torment day after day. He comes from office, we run to the store, we get back at 9, end up having maggi. Its so troublesome. If only someone could say go to this shop at this place, u will get every freaking thing there. Anyways, there is no use whining, lets start with next range of shops. 

1) Majestic Furniture, Royapettah : On our way to Damro furniture in Royapettah we passed this store. It looked quite fancy so we thought we might as well have a look. 

Models : Okay so they had fair price, quite comfortable recliners, seriously the best ones. We were so happy that we finally found a shop that had something close to quality, price but as usual i googled and people had written worst reviews on the products, consumer respect here. For them warranty or customer service is the last priority. Sometimes they have even taken the amount and not delivered until some lady went in with police. Scared of losing money, not belonging to tamil society, i outwardly rejected the shop.Even the bed designs were good there, we wished it had a lot of positive reviews.

Price : As I said, the prices were good, it wasn't expensive. They seemed pretty flexible with the models and said could deliver them next day. The prices weren't high but the shop seemed local so we won't be able to deal with them if something goes wrong.

My Verdict : No way I am not good at fighting and my husband ain't better unless he's against me. It could turn out the best furniture too but these people had pretty bad experiences. 
http://www.asklaila.com/listing/Chennai/Royapettah/The+Majestic+Furniture/BncRdCgn/

2) JFA : In hopes of finding something new designs or recliners, we entered this showroom. Same recliners, same beds, same prices as in adyar showroom, although they had more sofa options. But what we were looking for wasn't there. Its actually good if my mom dad wanted to buy furniture. Their prices are slightly more than other shops but thats because they have 5 year warranty and their furniture lasts long as the old folks say.

Models : Recliners were the same blanket feel and at 50k for two. Bed designs were okk for my mom dad looking for reliability in brand. So not for us. We were ready to settle for bed with big headboard at 25 k with our without storage. Sadly, even head boards are not in jfa. 

Prices : Prices are worth the brand.

My Verdict : No for right now, besides beds in demand are compressed wood furniture products which kind of gives up to water exposure. No for recliners absolutely.

3) Damro Furniture : Just opposite to JFA is Damro Furniture. This is the shop we actually had in mind. The recliners that they didn't had in velachery were supposed to be here.

Models : So recliners had the same blanket fabric feel, I didn't like it. Even the best one isn't good. The beds were okk, yeah the headboard thing is stuck in mind. No to recliners, beds here too. But there was good shoe rack and tv cabinet at 1ooo rs and 3000rs. 

Prices : Prices were moderate. Furniture is worth price, they also had cane furniture in the upper floor which was good but limited designs. 

My Verdict : No if only they had something besides compressed wood. The salesman told us compressed wood lasts not more than 3 years, solid wood or teak is better. They are giving 3 years warranty. Everyone is going for compressed one, it looks good,  polished, shiny and expensive. 

4) Jayabharatham Furniture, JBF, Royapettah : This one is different from JFA, the name is similar, the acronym isn't. So we enter and this nice old chap starts showing us around. 

Models : He showed us beds, we entered with least expectations but it was nice. The beds had big headboards, prices seemed transparent. He told us compressed wood isn't good, even opened up a bed and explained why it gets weary after time. So finally appeared the bed of teak wood with storage with a big head board. Just what we were asking for. Anyways you just don't book, u google and then analyze. Another good option was storage where you don't have to take it out, just slide it over. We don't have the space to take out racks. 

Prices : Price is actually good. He said 24k for bed, extra 7000 for storage. He even showed us the upper storey where they carved furniture. They had wonderful cane jhoola at 2000, storage stool for 1500. I liked the store.

My Verdict : With no reviews on google, we felt confused. But the shop is good, it has fair amount of designs and people look genuine. Who are we to judge them unless of course they cheat us or rob us forcing us to write another horrible experience. There are no modern designs, don't expect much. Teak took our heart. It was set in 1937. 

5) MoDFurn, Royapettah : ModFurn is the one people keep raving about. As we entered this one, some old guy came and he was pretty arrogant. Mostly old guys buy expensive furniture. He thought we were just looking around on some planned date. It was awful. He wouldn't even listen to us when we enquired about bed, thickness,storage etc. Even when we were leaving, he didn't tell us the price for the 2 seater recliner priced at 75k if it was modified. 

Models : Recliners had the same blanket feel or leather feel. None was like really comfortable. We went to the upper floor and they had this 3 seater recliner with place to keep remotes, coke etc. It was good priced at around 1 lac. This was the one we asked if he could get for us as two seater. He lost us when he kind of didn't care enough. The beds were good too, i liked the designs. This one is a must visit for people looking for somehow modern furniture. I am not saying it fits, it just is better than its peers. 

Prices : It was a little overpriced but with the whole hype its kind of expected. 

My Verdict : Its good with modern designs and somehow better lot than other shops. You can surely find better furniture at stanley and not just brown at slightly higher prices. 

6) Not Just Brown : Not just brown had the best person ever to show us around the shop. We were there for snoozer. They had four varieties- beauty sleep,posture care, presidential suite and louis xvi. They had 3 there. We tried and louis fit our needs. You can calculate at home how much these will cost you.

http://www.snoozerbedding.com/step1.html

We decided to go for louis one and booked it after returning from lifestyle. 

Models : We tried their recliners too. They were okk. He told us too comfortable leads to back pain. Besides people don't want to sink in to the furniture so they normally don't keep soft comfortable cushiony things. The whole range was good. It was a bit pricey. Its an ultra rich affair. The bed designs were new, even seating options were good. A must visit for people with budget from 1 lac and above for a single product.  

Final Advice 

1) Choosing wood : Compressed wood is bad with water. It swells up. But it looks nicer than others. It has most designs than ever. IF you go for this, you can buy it from lifestyle store. They have the best designs right now. And if you are rich, go for not just brown. Theirs is classy collection. 

        If you want to go for teak wood or solid wood, get a carpenter or some local shop who make beds with teak wood. There are several teak wood stores in chennai. 

2) Collection : As I said, collection is more at lifestyle store. Better at Stanley, modfurn and not just brown stores. Damro woodpecker Jfa are the same. 

3) Prices : Prices are almost same at damro, woodpecker, Jfa. I think a simple bed with storage would cost around 20k for compressed wood, 24k for teak wood. More designs, more prices. At stanley, sofa set could cost around 2 lac, at not just brown sofa set is around 1.5 lac, bed is around 1 lac. Best compressed wood with headboard at 20k was at damro. We are more like into teak wood now. 

4) After Sales Customer service : JFA, stanley, not just brown leads the band. All others have bad history.

What we are going with

We are getting mattress from not just brown, snoozer louis at 24k with cover. 

We are getting teak bed from jayabharatham furniture, jbf at 22k with storage hopefully.

We are getting shoe rack from damro at 1000 with 3 racks.

We are not having recliners right now, there are better at delhi stores. So we decided to buy big cushions from lifestyle and will stack them up for comfort.

Hmmm.....last stop today is bean bags shop. 

Furniture Hunt in Chennai : Recliners, Beds, TV Cabinet etc etc

Yeah we are young, we have a lot of ps3 games and we finally got an apartment with exclusive hall where we could place recliners, bask in happiness. So we started looking around for bed and recliners in extended village called chennai. We looked through websites, went through extensive research network, here is the summed up experience from over a dozen furniture stores. 

What we were looking for

1) Bed, Cot : We were looking for bed with modern designs less height, a big headboard, snoozer mattress  of about 10 inch thickness, ultra soft mattress like the ones in hotels, storage in bed was optional. Our room isn't that big so a cute queen size bed could fit well. Of course durability warranty matter here. More concerns for the mattress, less for the bed. 

2) Recliners : Super comfortable recliners, leather or fabric or price or brand doesn't matter. The kind of lazy boy rocking recliners which hug you, like you are sleeping in a ball of fur. The joined ones are not preferred because then we have to move it if my husband wants. So still recliners with a long warranty service brand comfort etc etc. We are kind of neurotic over this.

Here is the list of furniture shops we went to:


1) Woodpecker Furniture, Besant Nagar : This being the closest was the first one we visited. I must say justdial is kind of misleading on the whole ratings thing.

Models : The bed models were okk. Like the normal designs you see in any shop. Nothing out of ordinary catches the eye. It wasn't bad, I mean for sure if someone enters with no whatsoever website in mind, they will probably book from here. But we are paranoids and we didn't quite love it. The bean bags were fine, not super comfortable, just bean bags. 

Kurl on angelica is okk mattress if you are into lower budget, it comes at around 20k. We already have snoozer in plans, so it didn't seem like saving 10 k and enter kurl on band. 

We also saw sofa cum beds, which were pretty hard to sleep on, not even a penny worth spending on these. 

There were no recliners here, so on to next shop. 

Price : Prices were somehow more for what they were offering. Especially the bed prices. Bean bag prices were as expected, may be indians don't get to sit, sleep on comfortable stuff unless they enter the amitabh brand which can ship at an instant or just live there for 3 months. 

My Verdict : Nooooo, I didn't like the furniture, may be its good trustworthy durable blah blah, i want my room to look pretty too. So nah. Onto next shop.

2) Saagar Furnishings, Alwarpet: Our hunt for snoozer mattress took us to the shop. Its located on  a pretty convenient location. Obviously they are more courteous, dealing with huge clients etc blends that in. 

There were two mattresses there. Both of them were great, one of them was super comfortable other one was less than that, but heyy they say you shouldn't sleep on neither too soft nor too hard bed. So we settled on medium firm posture care diwan bed with 8 inch thickness. It costs around 33 k for one. If you want the bed with wheels to fit the mattress which is of low height, it costs around 35 k. AAhhh head board is missing. Sad sad. Anyways the mattress's pre order time is 15 days, their service is good, they will come to house, keep it properly. This is all for 6 by 5 bed. It can be custom made. The options are more.

Its just the second shop so we didn't place order. Snoozer mattress it is, bed we are not sure of yet. In hot humid places, they have a special mattress that mostly locals get custom made. That is another option too.

They are professional and know their world. They can also send tailors to come to your house and measure for curtains, provide for them. Its pretty awesome. I even matched a few curtains but my husband was like, there is just one curtain place so yeah may be i will wait till he buys me a mansion. 

My Verdict : Yes yes yes i think we are going to order mattress from them, may be bed too if we don't get any with head board.  They sound rich, they act rich, they smell rich but thats because they deal with rich. I like them. Courteous rich. They are giving lifetime warranty on everything. The after sales service is the best i hear. 

3) Lifestyle Home Center : This one is an exclusive 2 storey showroom in teynapet. There was major sale going on so it was crowded.

Models : Well bed designs for sure were different and good. There were the ones with head boards, without cushiony head boards, with storage space, with mattresss, without mattress. We even zeroed on two of them, the cute bed with headboard and it was for 20 k. One year warranty is what takes the thunder away. But what they say is what they will stand by. Most of the wood was compressed wood, solid wood and rubber wood. You can even find beds at 10 k if you want. 

Then we went to the recliners, the recliners were comfortable too. The one with red cloth fabric took my heart away. I sat in it and got hugged just like i dreamed. It was the best till now. The leather recliners were really comfortable too. The one with the cloth was rocking recliner and cost around 18k with just one year warranty. The other ones were in different price ranges. There was a joined one which was priced at 44k, the single leather one the best the most comfortable one at 35k. The major problem was one year warranty. With others offering at least 3 year warranty. The comfort level was awesome. I still can't get over the red one. My husband won't buy it seeing no whatsoever credibility lifestyle people want to bear. 

We also read some lifestyle reviews, some of them were awfully pissed at their after sales service. 

My Verdict : No for right now, still looking for comfort plus warranty. Why won't they give warranty why why why ? Hooked on the red one and leather one. Huh search goes on. Do you know lazy boy gives 10 year warranty. Wonder what lifestyle puts into their products. Although red one did have less cushion but at 17k you won't find better options.

3) Stanley Boutique : After lifestyle, stanley boutique was the next destination. It is in some ultra posh locality with espirit showrooms and other major luxury brands around. So we went in with the expectations of not being able to afford the comfort they will provide.

Models : I don't know why but they had less models available. Is it just the chennai store or they have done the same thing to bangalore. There was just one model that i pretty much liked. A single one at 75k with 10 year warranty. But to my amazement, their fabric rocking recliner couldn't compete with my 17 k lifestyle recliner. And this 75k was as comfortable as the 35k recliner in lifestyle. So comfort is same, warranty is more. What would you rather do, buy a two lac joined love seat and use warranty for 10 years or just go for 44k lifestyle with one year warranty. Hmm still confused. There was one more black super comfortable recliner, my husband tried it , it was simply awesome but then he told us it was custom made for some 6 foot foreigner. Okay, comfort is for them huh. Anyways we looked for sofas too and they were not good for comfort. What is it with the whole leather hype. I don't care about your stupid expensive leather dude. Why don't they keep all products as in US. Checking the websites is pretty disappointing. Chennai truly sucks even for rich.  They had really good designs for sofa, pretty rich looking and good to show off. 

My Verdict : No I don't care for leather warranty. I will get mine shipped if I have to. You still don't have the massage headphones stuff here. What is it with chennai? I am ready to pay, just show me a nice recliner for god's sake. Why can't i have at least 20 options to choose from?

4) JFA : With major recommendations from our landlord, we went to JFA. The person who showed us the models was well spoken and polite. The recliners were actually good for someone who wants a homely moma feel. You know they use the fabric stuff that is blankety like the sofas at middle class home. They were comfortable too. 22 k for single one, 50 k for double rocking recliner one. The home memore doesn't fascinate us that much, we don't want our parents to come and say ohh this is like the sofa at home, it rocks and provides leg space. 

The beds were good. Like woodpecker, family orthodox boring designs. No innovation from their side. Why can't they just go to other country websites and copy the designs. Anyways they were priced around 23 k without head board. As soon as the head board came, it was around 35k.  We didn't like the beds. 

My Verdict : No for me for lack of modern touch. The simple designs didn't quite attract me. Its okk for families, the middle class ones. Not for us. But with 5 year warranty and overly praised after sales services, it should be taken as an option just in case you might stumble upon the lucky one. Recliners are homely, not for us looking for psychotic alien features to chennai furniture traders. 


5) SimplySofas : There was this love chair at 90 k just one option, one color. The others weren't good. So not good for recliners. There were some chairs, especially the blue one but it didn't hug. Again for the rich show off kinds not looking for luxury comfort, we want more options chennai. 

Verdict : NO....no variety with so many brands listed in the shop. They had just 3 models for recliners. There was one year warranty on mechanism, 3 year warranty on fabric, after sales service is obviously good. 

6) Damro Furniture Store, Velachery : With all the bad experiences less options, we went with minimal hopes to damro furniture. Surprisingly, their recliners weren't that bad at about 60 k for two. The same homely feel surfaces. They have no leather ones available in the velachery store. So looking forward to kodambakkam store to test the most comfortable one. They can customize according to color, size, join the chairs provide space for cold drinks etc etc. So next destination is kodambakkam store. 5 year warranty on fabric, 1 year warranty on mechanism, but their after sales service is not good according to some sources on internet. 

The bed options were good, designs were similar to other ones. The one with the head board cost around 20k , the one with the hydraulic storage was 20k too. The bed with the storage cabinets was for 15k, 2500 for one cabinet extra. Their mattress was soft but the salesmen confessed kurl on was better. This is the only bed we have liked in a long time but the vertical shafts to support it were just two. Huh furniture hunting ain't for us.  

My Verdict : We could finalize the bed from here or recliner if they had more positive responses in some places. Still confused hung over. If someone could just say damro is good, we had it for 20 years. They give 3 years warranty on beds. For recliner, more options have to be looked at in kodambakkam store.

By now, the best recliner in comfort terms was in lifestyle with less warranty at 17k  with red  cloth kind fabric Or 75k single seater at stanley. 
By now, the best bed design was in damro with less hopes of lasting long at 20k.

We are going to look at kodambakkam today and may be cozy bean bags and not just brown and sarada agencies too. Verdict on these tomorrow. I am so hung up that even when i sleep, i find myself wandering around furniture shops in dreams. And those shops have all the ideal furniture at ideal prices with best warranty. 

More reviews coming up tomorrow.